The abuse did not end because I packed my bag and left. I was safe when it came to physical abuse but, the verbal and mental abuse continued. Sometimes going to work was a nightmare because at any time the phone would ring it may have been him on the other line. Fridays were the worst especially if he was off. He would drink all day and call my job repeatedly. If I didn’t come to the phone he would talk to my coworker or whoever answered the phone. It was humiliating and embarrassing. It was better for him to call my cell phone to keep co-workers out of my business and spare myself the humiliation.
I changed jobs and even cell numbers, next thing I know he had broken into my home. He drove two hours to break into my house. Unbelievable Right! He was looking for evidence that I was having an affair. Since I had filed for divorce I must have another man. When he didn’t find what he was looking for he tore up my bedroom and stole some things.
There is so much more to an abusive relationship. Leaving does not mean it is over. When a victim leaves the abusers usually cannot handle it. Things very often take a turn for the worst.
If you or someone you know is a victim of domestic abuse please call the National Domestic Violence Hotline at 1-800-799-7233.
You may also contact Daylight, Inc for assistance with safety planning.
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